In order to alleviate the pressures of wedding planning and keep your dignity and sanity intact, we’ve devised the following 10 commandments, with the input from newlyweds, who know all to well about how this long awaited process can unleash the crazy in you.
1. Do not lose sight of the big picture
Remember what this wedding represents. It’s a celebration of a lifelong commitment between you and your significant other. At the end of the day, the flowers or table arrangements are not going to have any impact on your marriage. So let’s not get too attached to the table settings, okay?
2. Enlist the help of your bridal party and family members
While we may have a streak of perfectionism embedded in our DNA, it’s important to fight the urge to hold all the reigns and allow your willing bridesmaids to lend a helping hand. Delegating certain tasks will undoubtedly alleviate your stress levels and eliminate the potential for bridezilla moments. Coordinating Day-Of details is an important task, but one that can be delegated to a trustworthy individual with impeccable organisational skills. This individual will be entrusted with the responsibility of liaising with the vendors for any last minute clarification and ensuring that the wedding day schedule is adhered to.
3. Take breaks as needed
Wedding planning is a mammoth task that can certainly take a toll on you. Don’t forget to take a time out when necessary. Don’t let the process consume you. This is a project that you should find joy in, not one that you resent.
4. Consider the groom
Though your groom may pretend not to care, keep him in the loop and seek his input. Prior to freefalling into wedding planning mode, have a discussion about the type of wedding you have in mind. You want to ensure that you and your husband-to-be are on the same page. Will it be an intimate gathering or a lavish affair?
5. Don’t bend to pressure
Pressure only feeds your inner bridezilla, so don’t lose yourself in this process. A long engagement is not a bad thing. Assembling together, possibly the largest event you’ll organise, in an unrealistic time frame is only creating unnecessary stress for yourself and those around you.
6. Organise date nights
Ah remember date nights? Don’t let this become a foreign concept. Take it turns to organise a date night and use this time to relax and unwind with one another. Abstain from wedding discussions during this time.
7. Laugh in the face of disaster
Don’t let a minor speed bump ruin your day. It could always be worse, so take a deep breath and laugh it off. Don’t underestimate the power of altering your perspective and considering the bigger picture.
8. Be grateful
We can’t all afford a celebrity-style wedding and that is okay. Be grateful that you’ve found the love of your life and that you’re about to embark on an exciting journey with one another.
9. Keep appointments and be on time
We are all busy bees with frightening schedules. This is only amplified when appointments with vendors come into play. Remember that vendors have other clients too and failing to attend scheduled appointments has an unpleasant domino effect on that vendor and other brides-to-be. Remember to write your appointments in your planner or add them to your Smartphone calendar to avoid a potential clash of appointments or missing them completely.
10. Show a token of appreciation to your vendors by providing reviews
We all know that reviews play an important role in our decision-making process. So don’t forget to show your gratitude for the hours of hard work your vendors have put into your big day – making last minute changes here and there and keeping your stress levels at bay. Take 10 minutes out of your day to leave a thoughtful review.